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3 Biblical Myths that Destroy Christian Marriages – FREE Course

Joel and Kathy — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 18:58:34 +0000

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The Powerful Meaning of Helpmeet

Joel and Kathy — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 22:18:35 +0000

There have been many abusive teachings circulating in the Body of Christ for years that revolve around misunderstandings of the word “Helpmeet”.

Helpmeet is a wonderful word, but it does not mean “to support your husband” “to hold your husband’s arms up” “to be second in command” or to “follow your husband’s dreams”.

What it DOES mean is powerful. It is the first word in the Bible that describes the relationship between a husband and wife.

Boiled down, helpmeet describes a marriage relationship where a husband and wife spend as much time as possible together, a husband keeps his wife in the forefront of his mind at all times and a wife is helping her husband to become Christlike by pointing out areas in his character that are not consistent with that plan.

This is what you will learn, in detail, in this mini-course!

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The Mighty Trio Home-Study Course

Joel and Kathy — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 15:51:31 +0000

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Ephesians 5:33 — Mutual Respect

Joel and Kathy — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 19:15:35 +0000

Is “Respect” Really the Number 1 Need of a Man?”

Should there be MUTUAL Respect in a Marriage? Mutual Honor? Or it is just the job of a wife to offer respect?

Is a wife REALLY supposed to “respect” her husband JUST because he IS her Husband?

Misunderstanding what the Bible teaches about “Respect” is One of the Most Common ingredients that contribute to the Failure of Christian Marriages – and probably Affects Your Own Marriage – Without You Even Realizing it!

We have been taught for at least the past 50 years that the bedrock of all marriage teaching, the rule that we should live our lives by, can be summed up by a single short passage — Ephesians 5:21-33.

We’re sure you know the passage we’re talking about, but here it is just in case…

Ephesians 5:21-33

Submitting to one another in the fear of God.

Wives, submit to your husbands, as to the Lord.

For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.

So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.

For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

This passage has been the foundation of teaching for those who believe that a wife is to submit to her husband’s authority; authority that this passage is believed to bestow.

It has also been the basis for the concept that a wife is to “respect” her husband and a husband is to love his wife. Yes! A husband IS supposed to love his wife. However, a husband is ALSO supposed to “respect” his wife!

The popular idea has been that a man’s number one need in marriage is for his wife to respect him! Sorry. Respect is great. Everyone enjoys mutual respect and wants it in their marriage – but a man’s number 1 need is not to be respected.

Being respecteed is the RESULT of loving and respecting his wife first! Teaching that a man’s number one need is to be “respected” is totally off base. It contributes to an “all about me” and selfish approach to marriage by husbands – and this is where things get dangerous for the Christian marriage…

In addition to these wrong ideas about respect, a woman is taught that her husband is to be the final decision maker in the household.

Her job is to submit her desires, convictions and leadings to the desires, convictions and leadings of her husband.

We have been conditioned to view this passage by consistent and repeated reinforcements that slant it a certain way.

The years of conditioning make it almost impossible to read the passage without coming away with the idea that a woman’s submission to and respect of her husband are the key to happiness in marriage, God’s way.

But what does the word “respect” really mean?

The Greek word for “respect” is Phobeo – and we are told to “Fear Not” – REPEATEDLY. Jesus himself said “Phobeo not!” – after he rose from the dead and appeared to many. He told John to “fear not” on the Isle of Patmos. If our risen Lord and Savior tells us to “Phobeo NOT” – then why would we be taught that a wife is to “phobeo” her husband?

What do we do with this?

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Ephesians 5:23-33 – Headship: Source of Life and Strength

Joel and Kathy — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 11:44:05 +0000

We’re sure you know the passage we’re talking about, but here it is just in case…

Ephesians 5:21-33

Submitting to one another in the fear of God.

Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

This passage has been the foundation of teaching for those who believe that a wife is to submit to her husband’s authority; authority that this passage is believed to bestow.

It has also been the basis for the concept of “Headship” — and this is where things get dangerous for the Christian marriage…

A woman is taught that her husband is to be the final decision maker in the household.

Her job is to submit her desires, convictions and leadings to the desires, convictions and leadings of her husband.

We have been conditioned to view this passage by consistent and repeated reinforcements that slant it a certain way.

But what does the word “head” really mean?

The church has taught that this means that the husband is the authority over the wife and that she has to defer decisions to him after giving her opinion.

This has been the main contributer to the 50% divorce rate – that Christian women were told that they were “second in command” instead of an equal partner.

But it gets worse…

Ephesians, Headship, and the Dangerous “Doctrine of Authority…”

The church has taken these ideas that appear to address wives and built a doctrine of authority in the home that has brought harm to Christian marriages.

This doctrine of authority states:

– A husband is God’s “delegated authority” over his wife (her head).

– A wife is to be subservient, secondary, and a “subject” in her husband’s kingdom. (Subject to her husband.) She is told that if she is not submissive to her husband, her rebellion is not to man but to God himself.

– If she disrespects her husband, she is actually disrespecting God’s order in the home.

This doctrine of authority is a sacred cow.

But here’s the startling truth, and why it may be destroying your marriage from the inside out…

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Ephesians 5:21-22 and the Myth of Submission

Joel and Kathy — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 00:05:57 +0000

We’re sure you know the passage we’re talking about, but here it is just in case…

Ephesians 5:21-33

Submitting to one another in the fear of God.

Wives, submit to your husbands, as to the Lord.

For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.

So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.

For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

This passage has been the foundation of teaching for those who believe that a wife is to submit to her husband’s authority; authority that this passage is believed to bestow.

A woman is taught that her husband is to be the final decision maker in the household.

Her job is to submit her desires, convictions and leadings to the desires, convictions and leadings of her husband.

We have been conditioned to view this passage by consistent and repeated reinforcements that slant it a certain way.

Ephesians and the Dangerous “Doctrine of Authority…”

The church has taken these ideas that appear to address wives and built a doctrine of authority in the home that has brought harm to Christian marriages.

This doctrine of authority states:

– A husband is God’s “delegated authority” over his wife (her head).

– If she disrespects her husband, she is actually disrespecting God’s order in the home.

This doctrine of authority is a sacred cow.

But here’s the startling truth, and why it may be destroying your marriage from the inside out…

NON-MEMBERS: Click here to read more about how to get instant access this life-changing “Instant Marriage Mini-Course” Members: Your course content starts below…

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