Comments on: “Respects Her Husband” http://saveourchristianmarriage.com/index.php/2009/08/04/respects-her-husband/ Sun, 23 May 2010 15:02:06 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: Joel and Kathy http://saveourchristianmarriage.com/index.php/2009/08/04/respects-her-husband/comment-page-1/#comment-49 Joel and Kathy Sun, 23 May 2010 14:57:10 +0000 http://saveourchristianmarriage.com/?p=34#comment-49 Hi Sally, We did not see your post. We apologize for that! I hope that you have gotten the course and have been onto our online marriage forum, and/or have gotten onto our group phone calls. You definitely want to get some help and guidance in getting your husband to understand and change. Call our group line tonight at 9 pm eastern time or any night, Saturday - Thursday. (8 pm on Mondays and 10 pm on Tuesday). The details are in your course information. If you have the course and don't find the phone call and forum information, write to us at joelandkathy4@aol.com Let us know you are a course member! Hi Sally,

We did not see your post. We apologize for that!

I hope that you have gotten the course and have been onto our online marriage forum, and/or have gotten onto our group phone calls. You definitely want to get some help and guidance in getting your husband to understand and change.

Call our group line tonight at 9 pm eastern time or any night, Saturday – Thursday. (8 pm on Mondays and 10 pm on Tuesday). The details are in your course information. If you have the course and don’t find the phone call and forum information, write to us at joelandkathy4@aol.com Let us know you are a course member!

]]> By: Sally http://saveourchristianmarriage.com/index.php/2009/08/04/respects-her-husband/comment-page-1/#comment-40 Sally Sun, 14 Mar 2010 04:31:50 +0000 http://saveourchristianmarriage.com/?p=34#comment-40 I am struggling in my marriage, My husbands shows me a great deal of love and caring, he loves me well and I love and respect this in him. There are times when he is stress or tired and he might be disrespectful in his tone or manner, and if we have a disgreement he can be quite cruel and often very childish in his responses but over all he is a good husband, which I respect. My problem is how he is with other people. When he first meets them he is generous and caring, he'll go out of his way to help and care, but if at any point he thinks they are being disrespectful (this is even when they are not, he just thinks negatively that they are) he gets totally over the top in his reactions. He has kicked out my son, his daughter, he has alienated untold people with his sharp words and disrespectful behaviour. It is like he is saying you must respect me no matter what, I can say or treat you disrespectfully but because I am the head of this house, I'm the authority you must respect me. As you can imagine this is hard for young people to take on board. I have tried to talk to him about the way he talks to people is disrespectful. I don't do this when we're in the thick of things but after the fact, and I do it in a caring way, not accusing (he even say's that I am better at this relationship stuff) I have gently pointed out that we don't have any close friends, cos pretty much if they're not related to us they can walk away and do. But with family they have to stick around but eventually they end up falling out with him and are banished. He is a Christian man, he is a promise keeper, but he believes the model of I must respect him no matter what, just as he must love me no matter what. He believes he should be respected even if he talks disrespectively to others or behaves in ways that are not respectful of others. How can I respect this man for that?? I am finding this so hard, I'm finding that the love I had for him is pailing and that scares me so much. I don't know what to do, I have prayed but what happens if its God's purpose for me to go through this forever!! I need advice and guidence, please help. I am struggling in my marriage, My husbands shows me a great deal of love and caring, he loves me well and I love and respect this in him. There are times when he is stress or tired and he might be disrespectful in his tone or manner, and if we have a disgreement he can be quite cruel and often very childish in his responses but over all he is a good husband, which I respect. My problem is how he is with other people. When he first meets them he is generous and caring, he’ll go out of his way to help and care, but if at any point he thinks they are being disrespectful (this is even when they are not, he just thinks negatively that they are) he gets totally over the top in his reactions. He has kicked out my son, his daughter, he has alienated untold people with his sharp words and disrespectful behaviour. It is like he is saying you must respect me no matter what, I can say or treat you disrespectfully but because I am the head of this house, I’m the authority you must respect me. As you can imagine this is hard for young people to take on board. I have tried to talk to him about the way he talks to people is disrespectful. I don’t do this when we’re in the thick of things but after the fact, and I do it in a caring way, not accusing (he even say’s that I am better at this relationship stuff) I have gently pointed out that we don’t have any close friends, cos pretty much if they’re not related to us they can walk away and do. But with family they have to stick around but eventually they end up falling out with him and are banished. He is a Christian man, he is a promise keeper, but he believes the model of I must respect him no matter what, just as he must love me no matter what. He believes he should be respected even if he talks disrespectively to others or behaves in ways that are not respectful of others. How can I respect this man for that?? I am finding this so hard, I’m finding that the love I had for him is pailing and that scares me so much. I don’t know what to do, I have prayed but what happens if its God’s purpose for me to go through this forever!! I need advice and guidence, please help.

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